Are You Sabotaging Your Goals?

Posted On Aug 28, 2013 By Erin Kuh, MBA, RD


It's Monday morning. The first thing you do is step on the scale, hold your breath and look down. Not only has your weight not budged, it's gone 0.8 lbs in the opposite direction!

So you start asking yourself, "why do I even bother? What's the point of even trying?" And the vicious cycle of your stop and go diet and exercise routine continues. Forget about the fact that you said no to Girl Scout cookies at work, went a full week without soda and hit your Bowflex machine five times.

Sound familiar?

Self-sabotage, or me-bashing, is one of the biggest hurdles to overcome when embarking upon any fitness or health goal.

It can strike from anywhere and keep you from reaching your goals. Maybe it happens when you go out to eat with a slim and fit coworker; you're ready to order a grilled chicken salad, when you hear her order the burger and fries. "That's not fair. Why does she get to eat like that and not struggle with her weight?" you might think, and then change your order to what she's having.

Or maybe you're on the TreadClimber trying to reach the 10 minute mark and feel defeated because you can't go for a full 30 minutes. So you stop at seven minutes instead of going for ten. It doesn't matter that you can't go for 30 or even 10 minutes in the beginning. You're exercising, while 70 percent of America isn't!

Here's how to stop sabotaging yourself:

  • Be selfish! Only focus on yourself and your progress. Compare yourself only against yourself and not your skinny best friend or the perfect model on the latest issue of Muscle and Fitness. It's not a fair comparison, and it only distracts you from focusing on your own goals.
  • Talk to yourself the way you would to your loved ones. You wouldn't say the false and harsh things you say to yourself to your grandparents, best friends or family members! Be kind to yourself.
  • ┬áLive for tomorrow, not yesterday. So you had a few too many cookies one day or miss a workout. Acknowledge it, move on and think about what you'll do differently the next time a similar situation comes up.
  • Have a solid rebuttal for challenging moments. Affirm your strength and self-worth through short optimistic statements: I can do this. I will not get distracted during my workout today. I don't need that cookie. Do whatever works for you.

What would happen if you took all of the time and energy spent on me-bashing and funneled it into your workouts and eating right? You might be amazed by the results!